A powerful manifesto invites us to engage in a revolutionary cause whose time has come.
The possibilities for society of this new third age can hardly be seen now, obscured as they are by misconceptions and prejudices — age-as- “problem.” They have to be seen as solution and not just problem for change to be possible. And we have to name our own need to move in society in new ways in age to make it happen. — Betty Friedan The Fountain of Age, 1993
No revolution springs to life overnight. It requires gestation, during which a gradual confluence of ideas (such as Friedan’s) and thwarted actions builds up, until the right moment when society is finally ready to encounter its full force. Such is the case with the movement to transform aging. And now we’ve reached a clear tipping point with Ashton Applewhite’s impressive and engaging work, This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against Ageism.
It’s a book whose time has definitely come.
Dedicated to Applewhite’s mentor, the pioneering pro-aging activist Dr. Robert Butler, this work sets aging’s realities against its ubiquitous myths that allow ageism to influence (infect, really) every aspect of modern life. A manifesto, This Chair Rocks declares the need to end age-based discrimination, which hinders the potential of all generations.
Writing in a crisp, vivid, and witty style, Applewhite shows us how and why our culture’s preoccupation with — and deification of –– youth has resulted in society-wide fear and dread of life’s later years, which are actually filled with potential and opportunity for growth, if only we would be more mindful and empathetic of others, and get out of our own internally ageist way. “This punishing old/young binary — old/no-longer-young, actually — consigns two-thirds of us to second-class status,” she writes, “a meekly self-imposed exile to the wrong side of the velvet rope.”
She drives her points home using startlingly on-target images and analogies:
“My darkest nightmare was the possibility of ending my days drooling under a bad botanical print in some ghastly institutional hallway.”
“Take ‘middle age,’ to which so many cling like flotation cushions, although who knows where the middle lies anymore?”
“The Helen Mirrens and Judi Denchs of the world are forging a footpath that needs to become a highway.”
“I used to think that those [‘senior moments’] quips were self-deprecatingly cute, until it dawned on me that when I lost the car keys in high school, I didn’t call it a ‘junior moment.’”
To help us understand our own journeys dealing with ageism, Applewhite shares the gradual raising of her own consciousness, a process she freely admits is ongoing, as it should be for all of us. She proudly embraces the role of “Old Person in Training,” stating that the process to become one “acknowledges the inevitability of oldness while relegating it to the future, albeit at an ever-smaller remove. It swaps purpose and intent for dread and denial. It connects us empathically with our future selves.”
Never preachy, always conversational, Applewhite engages the reader in a supportive co-experiment. Here’s how ageism defeats us, she says, and here’s what we can do together to defeat it. Throughout the book and in chapter-ending “PUSH BACK!” sections, she shares practical ways to deal with such challenges as ageist language, identity issues, and intergenerational relationships.
In nine engrossing chapters, she explores ageism’s many impacts on life, including on health care, sex and intimacy, the workplace, community and housing, and at the end of life. Each argument is so thoroughly researched and clearly presented that the book should be required reading for medical students and established health-care professionals, businesspeople, aging-services providers, policy makers — and anyone who is getting older.
Throughout the book, Applewhite cheers us on as she helps us arrive at newer, fresher, more life-affirming understandings of what being and getting older are really about. Wrestling with our society’s insistence on the “age-as-problem” approach can feel daunting, she admits, but it’s not as intimidating and difficult as the greater challenges all of us will face if we don’t apply ourselves as soon as possible to the task of defeating ageism. As she states,
…it’s clear that upending discrimination on the basis of age will require fundamental changes in the way society is structured. We have to come up with fairer and broader ways to assess productivity, devise more ways for older people to continue to contribute, support them in these endeavors, and decouple the value of a human being from success along any of these metrics. This social change demands that we join the struggle against racism, sexism, ableism, and homophobia as well. Likewise, activists for other social justice causes would do well to consider how ageism hampers their efforts, and to raise awareness and work against it.
Abolishing ageism is a revolutionary cause whose time has come. This Chair Rocks, is its inspiring manifesto. If we diligently apply its ideas, we’ll arrive at the solution that Betty Friedan passionately urged us to find more than two decades ago. Let’s all read the book — and get to work.
Article originally published at changingaging.org.